Kathleen Tormey

Have you ever wondered what the difference between a Karmic Contract and a Soulmate relationship is? A twin flame would be a third type of energetic relationship, but I’m not going to touch on that one here.

I think we can all agree that a relationship is an opportunity to learn more about ourselves, hopefully offering growth.

At times, growth can be painful, but, if a consistent cycle of pain within a relationship exists, then we have to ask ourselves, “am I actually growing?”

Do you remember that quote, “people come in and out of our lives for a reason, a season, and a lifetime?”

It bodes the question, “Which people/relationships are you meant to stay in for a season; and which ones are you meant to pack it up and move on because you understand the reason?”

The “season” being a lifetime, and hopefully, a soulmate relationship, the “reason,” being Karmic.

From a Spiritual perspective, my friend Infinity explains it like this:

“While many will settle for a Karmic or low vibrational love, Soul love is reserved for those willing to “elevate” in love rather than settle.

Karmic love and Soul love can both feel intense. But this is the difference:

A Karmic relationship and a Soul relationship both trigger your shadow, but the trigger from a Karmic will keep you feeling lost in toxic cycles and patterns.

While a soul connection will trigger the parts and pieces of you that need nourishing and healing. You can then activate yourself to your highest potential while continuing to evolve in connection with that other soul.”

In other words, when a relationship continually doesn’t feel good, when it’s not bringing you the staying power of a healthy relationship, then it’s time to move on.

But, before you begin a new relationship with another person, know this: if you want to attract a soulmate love, you must first work on self-love.

If you believe in the “law of attraction,” then it makes sense that in your next relationship, you will attract what you put out there. If you put out a sense of self-love and self-respect, you will pull in from a partner the same.

When one says, “I’m working on myself,” and quickly jumps into another relationship, then they’re not working on themselves. It’s impossible.

When you leave a relationship, it’s imperative to take the time with yourself to dig down to the depths of your darkness and find your authenticity, to reclaim yourself as an individual, healthy soul.

On the other hand, if you don’t reach that place of self-love, guess who you’ll be dating?

Some Characteristics of soulmate love:

Karmic relationships are not considered healthy relationships

A point she made that resonated with me, “When we continually ask the question, “should I stay?” and we’re in a relationship with repeating, toxic patterns, our biggest fear can be “what’s on the other side?”

But, when you finally leave, what you feared is nothing compared to the relief and joy you receive as you move on into something healthier.

Being alone and feeling healthy is a far better place spiritually. It opens up the door for your personal growth to begin.

Caring for yourself is often lost in a Karmic relationship.

If you are not feeling healthy, then everything around you, everything you attract in, will be just as unhealthy.

Do the work :)

Wishing you love and light,

Kathleen